Some teachers lack empathy
February 28, 2019
Have you ever had a teacher who just shouldn’t be in a classroom?
Sure, they may have the credentials. They may have the appropriate education and the expertise. They may have been teaching for a long time. But that doesn’t make them a good teacher.
I feel like this is a subject many students, especially college students, are afraid to talk about. It’s easy to just mind our own business when a fellow student is being treated wrongly by an educator. After all, what are we going to do? Call out the person whom our grade depends on? Stand up to the person who could negatively or positively affect our GPA?? Of course not. I don’t expect anybody to. And nobody should have to.
But I see instances where such interventions are needed all the time. Educators treating students poorly, discouraging them, making the class nearly unbearable for the students.
Let me ask you a couple questions. Have you ever seen a student get thrown out of a classroom for asking a question? For possibly challenging the teacher’s knowledge? Maybe even for daring to have a differing opinion?
Have you ever been given an ultimatum – either drop the class or sit still while a teacher sucks the confidence and motivation out of every student in the room, including yourself?
Have you ever had a teacher who doesn’t see you as a human, but rather as a butt in a seat? Not someone who has a life, a job, a family, medical conditions, mental health issues, etc. but rather a one-dimensional college student with nothing else to worry about?
It wasn’t until recently that I experienced these things myself.
Surely, many of you aren’t just butts-in-seats, you’re human beings. Absolutely, we should communicate with our professors as much as humanly possible. Let them know when we won’t be in class, try our best to make up work, provide doctor’s notes when dealing with a medical issue. It’s all we can do.
But some teachers can actually look at all of the effort a student puts into communicating and doing everything right, and still take it personally when we aren’t in class for a day or miss an assignment. So what can we do?
After much observation and talking to other students, I have come to the conclusion that some people simply lack the ability to see college students as anything more than just that: College students. Because we’re lucky, right?
We live in a place where we get to pursue a higher education. We’re at an age where we’re supposed to be “invincible” and healthy and happy and prospering. We have all the time in the world to have jobs and children and responsibilities and illnesses and lives. Right?
I don’t think so.I think a lot of us are dealing with these things now. We are not exclusively college students. Don’t get me wrong, education is incredibly important. And wouldn’t life would be a breeze if we weren’t anything other than college students? I wish I could just be a college student. I wish I wasn’t so human.
I wish that earlier this year, I hadn’t watched a boy who never spoke in class, finally work up the courage to raise his hand and ask a question. I wish that, in return for his bravery, he hadn’t been ordered to leave the classroom loudly, aggressively, for “trying to act like he knew more than the teacher.”
I wish that I didn’t witness his absence from the class for the rest of the semester. And I can only hope that it didn’t completely destroy his motivation and confidence to pursue an education.
So, tell me: have you ever had a teacher who just shouldn’t be in a classroom?
Sarah
Feb 16, 2021 at 5:49 pm
Yes I did. More than one.
I was going through a lot in my second year. I had physical health problems (which were not visible due to the nature of them), extreme loneliness, faced racism, a broken heart and depression. It was too much to handle. I did not want to exist since there was no joy or happiness in my life. As a result, I couldn’t get myself motivated to get my coursework done as it was extremely hard when going through health problems, loneliness, a broken heart and depression. My coursework would trigger and bring back feelings of loneliness even at home because my mind associated my coursework with loneliness since I had no friends at college and was socially outcast. It wasn’t like I was this horrible person, I was polite and respectful. I didn’t do anything wrong. I was different in terms of race, ethnicity and religion which I suspect may have been the reason for being socially ostracised by fellow students and why the lecturers would be friendly with the other students but treat me differently (I wore a religious symbol but I never discussed religion).
So when I missed deadlines for my classes, two of my lecturers mocked and laughed at me together on purpose to my face, treated me with contempt, disrespect and refused to help me after I asked for some advice and guidance for one of the deadlines that I had not missed. I was advised by another lecturer (before this all happened) who was the course leader to do whatever coursework I could for every class so that I at least would pass instead of fail. That is what I was trying to do at this point. The two lecturers I mentioned felt entitled to mock and belittle me whilst I was standing there already in a lot of worry and anxiety for my future. They did not need to further rub it into my face. At this point I started to see them as sadistic individuals because they seemed to derive pleasure from my misery and struggle. When I brought up that I still had time to complete my coursework for that specific class, they just didn’t care and then told me to not be there in person as I could be emailed instead. I had a right to be there in person as I paid thousands of pounds in tuition fees and I did not pay their wages to be treated in this way. It’s in their job description to support their students both academically and even with personal matters. As expected, they did not email me. They wanted to control, take pleasure in my misery and mock me instead of trying to help me and support a struggling student.